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As usual, my fellow fake doctor has some excellent advice. Try it. She's very smart and sexy.
If I may add another suggestion, since clitoral stimulation is the easiest (and best) way to have an orgasm, you could try having your boyfriend use his fingers as he is penetrating you. Experiment with some positions that make this doable. Or, my personal preference, use your own fingers. This will work in practically every position, and I guarantee perfect results. And the good news is that when you have an orgasm while being penetrated, it feels extra good for him too. With some practice, you'll be able to master the much dreamed about mutual orgasm.
Good luck to you, Lindsay!
OK, on the subject of cybersex - the whole idea is that you can get off on the anonymity. You can be whoever you want. The person you're talking to can be whoever they want. The good news is that the person you're talking to can be whoever YOU want. That's the best part. It takes a certain amount of creativity. If you take it too seriously and literally, it just won't be fun. I think cybersex is an excellent way to experiment with things you may be interested in, but are not comfortable trying in "real life". Sex with a same-sex partner, for example. It's risk free, and it's as safe as any sex act can be. Of course, it's not for everyone. If the very idea of it turns you off, then it probably isn't for you, and you'll need to find another outlet. But the fact that you're asking this question at all might mean that you have a tiny bit of interest in it, but you are a little bit uncomfortable and don't know where to start. That's ok. You might want to accept the next invitation you get. Pretend it's the perfect man on the other end. You'll probably find that most men who are looking for cybersex are going to do their best to impress you. Take advantage of that. If you don't like it, feel free to bail out. That's the great thing about a computer. When things get ugly, you can turn it off and walk away. I don't suggest that you have your first cyber experience with someone you know, or someone you are interested in. Try it with a mysterious stranger, and let us know how it goes! Good luck!
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good question. I must add to my fake doctor friend and tell you that eating pineapple also helps the taste of your cum. Oh, and vegetarians taste delicious. Ok, here's the point. All women, like myself have this fear when performing oral sex. What do we fear? Gagging. It's the most embarassing and unsexy thing that can happen when cum is shooting down your throat but running to the bathroom to spit is worse. Tell your woman that you'd find her swallowing sexy and maybe she'll reconsider. I commend you for perforiming oral sex on her because let's face it, the wetter the man gets, the better you're making us feel. No one said it was fair but our juices don't shoot down your throat unexpectedly. Maybe you could try cuming on her instead which can also be quite erotic. Talk about it. I truly believe good sex comes through open discussions in and out of the bed. Most women don't enjoy swallowing, we just act like we do. Just watch some porn, they only act like they're swallowing. Whew, I've actually made myself a little warm. Good luck. Keep us posted.
I have a question about oral sex..sort of. My girlfriend and I have a really great sex life but there is one area that kind of gets to me. Why is it that most girls have an issue about not allowing a guy to cum in their mouth while they are giving orally....HOWEVER, they fully expect us to return the favor (with no complaints here) with the equal amount of bodily juices flowing from them. Does that seem fair. Did I word that question right?
First off, we're so sorry for the delay. My fake doctor friend and I have been quite busy. We promise it won't happen again.
Now, as to your question. Of course, you're not asking for advice, you're just wondering why. Hopefully we can help shed some light. How nice that you have no complaints about performing oral sex. But, you must consider the differences in men and women. While yes, women can be juicy, it's a bit different than a man's situation, where stuff just comes shooting out. Consider this, would you rather take a nice warm bath in a tub of water, or be squirted with the hose? Being squirted with the hose can be quite scary to some, even if the water is warm. She may fear choking, or maybe doesn't like the sudden mouthful. Perhaps she doesn't like the taste. Is it fair? No way. It's just different. We fully expect you to return the favor because you don't have a choice. You can't take that bath without getting all wet. Of course, you could abstain from oral sex all together, but what's the fun in that?
I suggest that you speak to the women in your life. Ask them what it is that they don't like about it. You may find the answer surprising. You may find that she doesn't realize that you would like for her to swallow. You also may find that she's willing to give it a try for you.
Some facts about cum: It's a great source of protien. Yes, it's good for you, folks. If you find she doesn't like the taste, eat celery. It makes it taste sweet. Yes, it's true. This fake doctor wouldn't steer you wrong.
Of course, some people just aren't into oral sex at all, and that's a shame. So, be happy when you find someone who is, even if she isn't willing to swallow.
Yes, I must tell you that I agree with my fellow fake doctor. Girls discuss things like panties, menstral cycles, and sexual positions any time of the day. It's nice that your girlfriend feels so comfortable sharing details with a friend because face it, if she didn't have this friend, she'd be telling you all about her cramps or the cute new panties she just bought. This way, you get to just see the panties and not hear the story about how they were on sale or she was upset they didn't have matching bras. You really win in the long run. Maybe you could get her to open up to you while making love and enjoy thoughts of your girlfriend and another woman flirting with each other.
Dear Doctors, I caught my girlfriend and her friend discussing details about their panties via email. Should I be concerned?
Dear Reader, that's what girls do. Especially the really fun and great girls. It's one of the things that makes us different, and let's face it, it's one of the things that you secretly love about us. I happen to know that your girlfriend is crazy about you, so no, you shouldn't be concerned at all. ;)
Oh, and please - That's fake doctors. You wouldn't want us to lose our fake degree now, would you?
Dear reader, I think it's safe to assume that all married people fantasize about having sex with someone other than their mate at some point in their lives. Hell, I'm not even married and I still do that. The urges that you feel are normal. Everyone has them. Not everyone acts on them, but everyone has them. I agree with my fake doctor friend, do not tell your wife what is in the past, because it would only hurt her. You do need to talk with her, not in a serious "we need to talk about our relationship" kind of way, but an "I think this would be fun to try" kind of way. Bring up the idea of fantasies, ask her what hers are. (Because we ALL have them) You might be surprised. By all means, give roleplaying a try.
I don't think you will feel good about your relationship with your wife until you make the commitment to stop receiving sex from anyone else. Let go of your guilt, and find out what's going on in her head. You may find that she's been pretending that you're Brad Pitt all along. Go with it, I don't think your wife will let you down. Good luck! (And thank you for the compliments!)
I am glad that one of you is married and one isn't just to get the viewpoint from both sides.
Let me say this, I do not advocate extramarital sexual activity.
I love my wife dearly. We have a very good relationship for more than 20 years. But there are times that I just get this strong desire to do something sexually with someone other than my wife. Be it a "massage" that ends up getting a hand job, or one of the many places in Dallas that $20 bucks will buy you a quick blow job. Within about 5 minutes or less I am thinking about my wife and how she doesn't deserve such a lack of loyalty and thinking about the lady that I just explited sexually.
I just don't understand this area of my life...it causes me such pain and know it would if I shared this with her. Of course I realize I haven't even asked a question...not sure what to ask really.
I appreciate what you have to say in your blog. It isn't condesending and is considerate of peoples feelings.
I realize the two of you are not real doctors but you do seem to have a good head on your shoulders...no pun intended..ha.
Thanks for your question. Glad you love your wife but what jumps out at me is your desire for something new, exciting, and a little bit dangerous. Coming from a married perspective, I know how you feel. The good part about being married is that there’s someone you can feel comfortable with but that can also be the downfall.
First, I’d like to say that you should probably never tell your wife about your trysts with other women unless you’re willing to suffer the consequences. Plus, there’s no need to hurt her which revealing these conquests would indeed. I should also tell you that “quick blowjobs” that last five minutes or less is still cheating so make a decision to stop cheating.
Take your desires for fun and fantasy into the bedroom with your wife. Tell her your dirty desires, roll play, and talk dirty. Also, be honest about your needs to keep things fresh. She’s probably feeling the same so it’s worth a try. I truly believe that even married folk should enjoy porn too so rent one together and talk about what you see and what you’d love for each other to do.
And yes, a good head whether it’s on your shoulders or down below is essential. Good luck. Be true to yourself, which mean lose the shame and guilt. Bring the crazy fun into the bedroom with your wife. Talk to her when the desire for others fills up inside instead of seeking someone else.
